Dec. 24th, 2014 08:03 pm
emyrldlady: (Katherine H. Whuuu?)
[personal profile] emyrldlady
I need to vent for a moment.

What's the term?  Schadenfreude?

You ever have a friend who pretty much is your friend because your life sucks and they feel better about their own life because of your misery? No? Really? Well, guess you've got better friends than me.

As most of you know my last few years have sucked. And in the last 3 months it's turned around. I've had a friend, a good friend, lend me a great deal of money so I got ahead of my finacial problems. The plan is that around March we are going to move in together and my expenses will be cut in half. To that end I will begin to pay this friend back.

Now this other friend, she's not happy about this. She says that it's a huge mistake and that I'm going to regret this because the person who lent me money will hold it over my head. They won't. I'm certain of it. She also says that I can't live with anyone. Because I'm too demanding. ( I may be a bit demanding, but I never expect from anyone what I'm not willing to put out there)

When I mentioned that part of the plan is for me to go back to school part time, she said to me.... 'you know with your  diabetes and thyroid issue you probably can't comprehend well anymore.'  Yes, she told me I'm too sick to learn.

When I mentioned that I was interested in social media marketing, she said that was for young people. So now not only am I too sick, I'm too old. I'm turning 48 in a couple of weeks. That is not too old, and yes I have illnesses, but I'm not stupid.

So I ignored her remarks, and distanced myself a bit. Now around this time, maybe a little after, with my financial issues not stressing me out, I started to get healthy, I started dieting and exercising. I'm down 12lbs and a few inches off my waist.  Go Me! I've made a few posts here about it but I'm mostly talking about it on FB. I've even got my walk app synced to my FB so it posts my progress.

This morning I saw this friend and she actually said to me 'I unfriended you on FB because I couldn't stand seeing all your posts. It was making me depressed."

Yes, MY feeling good about myself depressed her.  Well, you know what depresses me? Wasting years being her friend. I'm done. If you can't feel happy for me, and you need to actively avoid my being cheerful... fuck you. How's that for happy.

Date: 2014-12-25 02:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] stargazer60.livejournal.com
I am really happy things are looking up for you!

You don't need people like this in your life!

Here's to a great 2015!

Date: 2014-12-29 02:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thanks! Here's hoping!

Date: 2014-12-25 02:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thrace-adams.livejournal.com
OH wow O__O With friends like that....

Wow. Talk about shooting down every idea you have - what kind of friend is that? >:( Just reading this makes me ragey on your behalf. That is NOT the kind of friend you need. You need friends that are supportive and happy for your successes and hold your hand during the failures.

And just fyi - that's crap about being too old for social media AND even MORE CRAP that you're too sick to learn. Don't take her words to heart because you're right, she's just trying to keep you down so she can feel better about herself. I feel sorry for her, because it must really suck to have to drag other people down to make yourself feel better.

*HUGS YOU HARD* I think you're doing AMAZING.


Date: 2014-12-29 02:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thank you! I had to vent and get it out so it wouldn't fester and get to me.

Date: 2014-12-25 03:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wynkat1313.livejournal.com
wow. that is not friendship. bugger her! I'm sorry you are having to deal with that.

I actually had a "friend" tell me (a bunch of years back) that she probably wouldnt have been able to be friends with me if I were healthy because I was almost too much sick. Humans!

Whatever you feel is right for you is freaking awesome and I appreciate getting to hear about the journey. Thank you for sharing.

Date: 2014-12-29 02:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thank you! I'm really trying to turn my life around.

Date: 2014-12-25 04:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] teaboyfan.livejournal.com
If you look up "a$$hole" in the dictionary, is your "friend's" picture there to illustrate it? It sounds to me like you're making wonderful progress and you don't need to be around psychic vampires like that who suck all the enjoyment out of life. You are NOT too sick or too old for anything except extreme sports or skydiving, maybe - and look at George H. W. Bush! (You might consider giving rodeo bulls a pass too.) But going back to school and investigating a new career, and sharing living quarters with a real, supportive, friend sounds like a prescription for a happy 2015, and you're already on the way to "healthy." Best wishes!

I'm too lazy to go back to your earlier post, so I just want you to know that I have a couple of dozen books to donate to our local Humane Society's thrift shop in you honor when things settle down after the holidays.

Date: 2014-12-29 02:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thank you! I'm trying to turn things around and if I have to drop dead weight that is trying to sink me then I will.

I spent a lot of my holiday time off sorting and cleaning clothes for donation!

Date: 2014-12-25 05:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hab318princess.livejournal.com
wow... just wow.

So glad you didn't let her get to you. Keep going - it's really inspirational how you are taking control and getting on with it!

Here's to a fantastic 2015

Date: 2014-12-29 02:25 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thank you! I'm doing my best. I know it may be slow going but as the saying goes 'slow and steady win the race'

Date: 2014-12-25 06:05 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alafaye
Ew. Icky. What is wrong with people?


Date: 2014-12-29 02:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
I don't know anymore. *hugs back*

Date: 2014-12-27 05:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] synnoveaevael.livejournal.com
that's no friend. that's someone who thrives off of others misery. it makes them feel better about the shit in their life. you're better off without the baggage.

Date: 2014-12-29 02:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emyrldlady.livejournal.com
Thank you! I'm tryin to clean house and not just old clothes!

Date: 2014-12-29 02:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] synnoveaevael.livejournal.com
word on that. :D


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